What is Sex Therapy?

Sex therapy is a talking therapy that is focused on sexual concerns and intimacy. Good sex makes you feel good about yourself and each other. When things aren’t going well, you may not feel good about yourself and your relationship with your partner may be affected.

In our therapy sessions we will understand what is getting in the way of intimacy with your partner, explore those aspects of your history and your partner’s that may be contributing to your difficulties, and work towards improving communication between you so that you can both feel more sexually satisfied, connected and happier in your relationship.

Individuals who are not currently in a relationship can also benefit from sex therapy which includes an exploration and understanding of their sexual concerns.

What to Expect in Sex Therapy

Initial Visit

The initial visit is an opportunity for you (if you come alone) or you and your partner to talk about those things that are bothering you about your sexual life, when things changed and what you would like help with. Sometimes partners have different experiences of what happens when they are intimate so it is important for each partner to have opportunity to share their experience. At the end of the initial consultation I’ll give you some feedback about what I think the problems are, and how they may be resolved.

As Sex Therapy Progresses

At some point early in our work, I’ll also ask you about your sexual development growing up, and your relationships with your family of origin. Sometimes it may be appropriate for me to give concrete suggestions about how to increase feelings of passion and excitement between you as a couple. In the course of our work together, having a session alone may also be helpful with some couples.

Common Issues Addressed in Sex Therapy (as an individual or as a couple)

Men

Women Couples
  • erectile dysfunction
  • low sexual desire
  • disparity in level of sexual desire
  • premature ejaculation
  • problems with sexual arousal
  • Infidelity
  • delayed ejaculation
  • lack of enjoyment from sex
  • sexual boredom
  • inability to ejaculate with a partner
  • inability to reach orgasm with a partner/or perhaps ever
  • difficulties communicating intimate needs
  • lack of enjoyment from sex
  • feeling undesired by one’s partner
  • Sexual issues mentioned for men and women may also be a couple sexual issue
  • compulsive use of internet pornography
  • pain on intercourse
  • loss of desire in long term relationships
  • sexual avoidance
  • sexual avoidance
  • negative body image
  • effects of illness on sexual functioning
  • relationship difficulties arising from sexual, emotional and/or, physical abuse
  • effects of illness on sexual functioning

Affiliations: I have been affiliated with the Sexual Medicine Clinic, Women’s College Hospital, Toronto, between 2004 – 2006 conducting assessments of couples presenting with sexual and relationship difficulties, as well as the Male Health Centre in Toronto and Ontario Men’s Health.  At these Male Health Centres, I conducted psychological assessments, and ongoing sex and relationship therapy with individuals and couples with a variety of male health and relationship issues.

To set up an appointment or to find out more about sex therapy, please call me at 647.282.3943 or email me to book an appointment.

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